This started when a friend and I were discussing how we are coping with knowing one of our mutual friends of many years has cancer and will probably not live for much longer. Her daughter contributed the ‘5 stages of grief’. Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. My friend said she is still sitting in […]

Photographs. When one used a roll of film, coated so that the light ‘stuck’ and that needed fairly costly processing, I was a very wary photographer. Having no natural ‘eye’ for good composition and lighting I was relegated to the ranks of unhappy-snapper.  I couldn’t bear the pressure of waiting for a whole roll to be […]

Christmas as a T-Rex. I would never be likely to dress up as one.  I’m more the sort who would wear something simple to a costume party, and have never dressed up for Halloween. So why Christmas as a T-Rex? Mbini, a fellow blogger from the old days on South African blogs where we made […]

Some families seem to all get along, others can never spend any time together without serious arguments. Why? Is this a genetic thing, or did the good or bad patterns start somewhere and just become ingrained in everyone through experience? Some families seem to have such a close sense of silly, that you can watch […]

You know how it goes from there. Or these days is it: A long time ago in a galaxy far far away…. I used to write stories, odd pieces, a few just egged on by others into long sagas. Then my mojo left town. Or at least it left me. I think I may start […]

i have always had the gift of solitude time alone with my thoughts books music so when i leave that time to be with special people i find (for me) rare enjoyment in company talks ideas laughter why then do i so resent the leaving of these, my special people i do not spend all […]

A few years ago I had a strange(ish) weekend in which I went to see 2 films dealing with sexuality and gender. The one was about someone changing gender and having to also cope with the discovery of his/her child as a teenager. The other was that famous one about the gay cowboys and their […]

As life and work become more complex, I sometimes wonder how people keep up. I am watching an organisation’s IT department that has been split in two (one side of the business decided it needed its own IT as the IT department was too costly and didn’t give what was needed). A residual culture of […]

This weekend it is very simple. It is the circle