I was just thinking about how men are so often such wonderful people when up popped a story online. About a dad who blogs, and he posted a picture of himself doing his daughter’s hair. Apparently that went viral all over, with both good and bad comment (and of course racist because he is dark-skinned).
Doyin Richards, a man with a wife and two children. Nothing that unusual about that, it’s petty common the world over (except maybe for some variance in the numbers of children). He was rather surprised at all of the attention – beng a blogger I’m sure he likes having real readers.
The ‘allowed’ role of men in western society has been changing for a while now, sometimes with the happiest of consequences. I was lucky to have a fully involved and loving father, but at least one of my friends had an abusive one. Many of the others were somewhere in between, loving, but not always showing it beyond being a good breadwinner.
Sadly all of these happy thoughts took me to the dark side, where the very men one hopes would be the primary protector of their children turn out to be the ones who hurt or kill them. What role models do those men have, absent fathers maybe, cross grandfathers who don’t want the responsibility for a second family? Step-fathers who really didn’t want children, but met a woman raising children alone.
One of my favourite aspects of science fiction, is that unquenched belief that so many societal problems will be resolved and that people will behave in civilised ways to each other treating each other with respect and respect for their human rights. All except for the baddies of course, who break all those rules.
In general though, I think men are such nice people, we should keep them on.