Mentorship, leadership, being the senior in a relationship. When does it end? When does the junior become the equal?
It is a status change that fascinates me. Watching people come into the knowledge, experience or whatever is needed to place them on equal footing with the senior.
Sometimes, even more fascinating is watching the previous “senior” and how they react as the other person grows and develops and is ready to be.
You sometimes see it in couples where the male has ruled, dominated for so long. Then Ill health or age and diminishing capabilities make him more and more dependent on her. Some just love watching her take over and look after them, others (the ones I suspect are control freaks) become grumpy and nasty.
Over the years in my industry I have watched many youngsters come in, grow, develop and become masters of their area. Personally I usually find it a pleasure to see this. The flowering of someone who has put in he effort to achieve.
But I think the greatest pleasure in this area is to see someone you have known since a tiny baby, grow up, become an adult. Then if you are lucky, the love in the relationship becomes the love of equals, friendship is real, and the satisfaction in seeing them competent, succeeding at their dreams, being happy is so great.
Today I feel like going to all of those, my second generation friends to give them a hug, and then go to sit with my first generation friends, with a coffee and chat happily over how far these beloved next generation ave come. And of ourselves to congratulate the first generation on their success in raising these wonderful people.