“Let them eat cake” a phrase attributed to Marie Antoinette when told the locals were revolting because they had no bread. It is told as indicative of the callousness with which the royalty of the period viewed “lesser mortals”.
True? Who knows? However it is indicative of the mind-set of most people. We tend to imagine everyone in the world lives pretty much as we do. We can only live inside our own lives. No one else can even start to imagine all that has happened in any one else’s life and how it shapes their circumstances, and how they view them.
This week I had the extremely dubious pleasure of being exposed to someone who, as she got drunker, dropped her mask of tolerance and went through stages of denigrating people we all know have had a rough deal, comparing them against her own standards of upbringing. Until she was ranting incoherently against (apparently) everything and everybody.
I told her she wasn’t talking sense. And immediately fell into her trap, I too was judging without knowing.
I wanted to see her “eating cake of reason and tolerance”, but I had no idea what she had faced in her life.
That’s how we are. Judging without knowing.