When desires conflict, how does one choose?
I’ve been watching two people each dealing with the same conflict.
They live in a small town, a one-company town more or less.
They both work for the one company, but the headquarters are in a city.
They both want to progress in their careers, but the progression leads almost inevitably into head office and the city.
Both, for different reasons, want to remain in the small town.
The conflict of these things makes them both difficult when either their chances for advancement are threatened by their resistance to the big city, or if a promotion is available, but it requires a move to the city.
I wonder which desire will win?
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I’d choose the small town …
I think I’d move
I think the town; home is a strong pull.
I suspect at least one of them will stay there
Intriguing!
RR
It is, I wonder if I will be around long enough to see any outcomes?
I would reckon you ask yourself some questions along the same lines that Nancy has mentioned: “Will I be happy if I make this move? Will I and my family benefit in good ways? What are my reasons for staying as opposed to my reasons for leaving? Which outweighs the other?” If it’s only for the money and/or prestige, I’m not sure that’s a good enough reason for packing up and moving!
They aren’t my decisions, nor are they consukting me about them. I’m just an observer.
Some people need the fast pace of cities . . . others do not. Sounds like they are both on the same page about avoiding city life.
oddly, they also both want the rewards of a head-office senior job
Career choices are difficult because they change our lives.
and those of their families too in this case
They must make a chart with + and – column and decide from there. A “decision” must be made. Perhaps that is what they fear most.
they haven’t asked me for any advice at all.
Phew, quite a dilemma – makes me grateful that I don’t face one like it at the moment. May time work it out for the best.
It’s always interesting to watch other people 😉